Taking Off Our Masks
“Don’t be fooled by me.
Don’t be fooled by the face I wear
for I wear a mask, a thousand masks,
masks that I’m afraid to take off,
and none of them is me”.
Excerpt from Charles C Finn “PLEASE HEAR WHAT I’M NOT SAYING”
This is a poem that I like a lot, because it’s so real. Yes, we all have masks. Masks that we developed starting from our childhood in order to adapt to different situations and environments.
I often hear moms complaining “Oh, my son is a pain in the ass at home but he’s an angel at school “ and I think “In order to be loved and accepted your son is putting his angel mask at school, but of course he gets so tired of wearing it all day long that when he gets home he behaves even worst than he normally is”
As another example, let’s think of how we behave on a first date. Are we totally ourselves? Or are we putting on masks, masks that would impress the other and hide our shadows? And can you feel all the pressure of the weight of these masks on our souls?
Please stop for a minute and observe the people around you in your job, at a cocktail, at a gathering with friends : just so few of them are undisguised and behave transparently. You can just observe most of them trying to appear happier, stronger, more intelligent, more courageous, more caring than he/she really is.
And why? Because we all need to be loved and respected. And to earn that love and respect, we are putting on our masks and try to fulfill the other’s expectations. But let’s reflect for a little while. In fact, people are showing respect and love to the masks that we wear, not to our true selves. And every mask that we wear not only distances us from our true selves but add to the weight that we are carrying.
Rodney Jenkins (Author of “Dreaming is for Lovers”)
Are we really aware of how much weight we have been carrying with these masks throughout our walk of life?
How about dismissing them one by one and freeing our true selves?
Let’s reflect ourselves openly and naturally. Let’s express what we really think instead of what is expected to be heard, of course without being disrespectful or hurtful.
Let’s put an end those fake smiles. Let’s stop hiding our feelings and let’s start revealing what comes from the bottom of our heart.
This is real freedom…
Let’s be loved and respected for who we truly are.
Let’s also accept the consequences: there will be people that will be wiped out from our lives because they will not accept or love our true selves. Let’s be thankful for this natural cleaning.
Let’s stop betraying ourselves and enjoy the lightness of being fully transparent to others, shining out our true selves.